This mid 30’s year old came from eHarmony and we went through the entire (silly) canned Q&A process together over the course of a couple of days.
She seemed pretty status quo but wasn’t from the city – she was from nearly 2 hours away in a small town which may as well have made her from Mars in comparison to the city girls I’d been dating thus far.
Post secondary education? Nope. Professional job? Nada. New car and a home owner? Hell no.
She worked at a factory and drove a beater.
Now I am not against that, I was there myself in my 20’s along with the small town living so none of this was foreign or unacceptable to me.
However, she was a back burner broad at best but I wanted to get out of the city that weekend and she was close to friends and family of mine, so I figured I’d travel to see her, and then see family/friends afterwards.
Grammar was negligible at best too “What time do you work tell” (and it wasn’t auto correct)
The agreed date was to meet at a coffee shop, then go bowling.
We met on the sidewalk outside of the coffee pub and she was looking pretty good! Long brunette hair and a nice jacket with designer jeans accentuating her body that had stayed in pretty good shape over the years. Her looks were good – now about the other half…
Right from the get-go it was apparent she didn’t go on many dates, and was all too anxious to tell the world that she was on one right now.
Everyone in line at the coffee shop knew, the girl who took our order knew, the people sitting behind us knew – and so did her mother, father and friends.
Then came conversation topics from her, and every single one of them would’ve been interesting to me – if I was still 19 years old. She also dove in with both feet regarding her ex, his job, things they did and his mother. It was pretty bad – I mean, why would any girl on a date even bring this stuff up?
I know she’s a dating newbie and all – but really? I don’t f***ing care about your ex. No date ever does, it’s the #1 thing you don’t talk about.
After steering the “conversation” back on track while slamming back my vanilla latte, I said “So where’s the bowling alley from here” and a few minutes later off we went.
The bowling part was alright but became a chore after the first two games and I basically wanted out, but would see the date through.
This is when some mixed messages came from her “I am so tired and have to be up at 5am”
I am thinking yup, of course you do – as I am taking off my bowling shoes. Even before the start of this date I’d decided that I may try to get back to her place if it went well enough (*cough *cough – mutual physical attraction) which was there but after her 3-4 “hints” I didn’t even bother and I just took her back to her car.
As I pulled up behind her car I was basically expecting her to say a quick goodbye and bail – but she hung around and told me she had so much fun, thanked me for coming and suggested she come up to my area next time.
I told her yes she could do that, there was far more to do before I gave her a hug and a kiss on the cheek – as she giggled and got out of the car.
A couple of hours later I got a text from her again thanking me for taking her out.
This is one I’ll get down with physically, but nothing else, and at 36 I am sure she knows that too – but even that has a very slim chance of happening.
Update: Received a “hey whats up” text from her just over a month after our date, I chatted with her but didn’t instigate anything, too many buns in the oven currently to care.