I’ve been on an eHarmony kick lately. This was the first site I signed up with but it proved to be a dud compared to the other one I signed up with soon after. I am talking 10 dates from the other site to 1 eH date here, so a couple weeks ago I figured I’d stoke the eH fire and see what I could get – and get dates I did.
Leah, we’ll call her, and myself started off as many eH flings do by sending canned questions and answers back and forth before finally engaging in normal conversation some time later. Not long after chatting on the site we moved to text messaging. Not long after texting I tried to go for the phone call, but this never happened on her behalf, for whatever reason.
Whether she intentionally tried to avoid the call or not didn’t really matter as we had planned to meet a few days later anyway, which was last Friday.
Going into this one I really didn’t have high expectations because at this time I was actively speaking with 3 ladies from eHarmony and Leah was at the bottom of that list. She was just the least interesting, had an odd-ball seasonal job, no real education and her picture set had everything from a thin mid 20’s version of her all the way to a mid 30’s tired looking version of her. This was a wild card.
Regardless we met in the parking lot of a coffee shop (gah!) and she was actually quite (initially) presentable. We made our way inside, ordered our drinks and went to sit down. I’ll say by around the 15 minute mark I was ready to go.
There was simply no spark. She acted 40-something instead of 30-something, asked me no questions, blathered about boring topics, and then I could sense a break; The staff was beginning to close down the coffee shop. I tried to use this as an escape but was confronted in the the parking lot by her:
“Well we can go to that bar over there”
Me: Hmm, nahh.
Her: Starbucks is just over there
Her: That bar over there…
2 minutes later we were in line at the Starbucks.
We sat down and it was more of the same, but around 30 minutes later I said I was meeting a friend after our little meet and really should be on my way (which I did and had a good time)
We made our way to the parking lot, and after an awkward-distanced “Nice meeting you” before getting into our vehicles, I was finally out of there.