So you’ve met a wonderful person online and you’ve sent multiple messages back and forth. You’ve exchanged phone numbers, texted each other and in most cases even called each other – now its time to meet. Where do you go?
This is a more critical stage than you’d think in making that first date turn into a second and third date. Further, if you can make it to a second date you’ve just significantly increased your chances of meeting many more times.
So how can you ensure that date #1 goes the best that it can? By choosing the right date setting!
I’ve been on many coffee dates and none of them went well or resembled anything remotely close to “fun”, and fun is what a first date needs to be. Now don’t get me wrong, there may be an age bracket out there that prefers “meeting over coffee” on a first date, but this blog isn’t meant for your grandmother. I’ll even go as far as saying that some of my failed coffee dates would have been better and turned into second dates had we simply chosen another venue rather than adding caffeine to an already jitter filled first date.
Sitting across a small table from someone that you don’t know much about is just bad news. You need “fun filler” on a first date and this doesn’t exist on a coffee date – the only thing you’ll have to work with is the stranger you’re sitting across from and all too often this leads to boredom, awkward silences and “check please”.
By all means coffee dates can work and turn into second dates, but it’ll take more effort and luck than if you choose to do something else.
This may sound similar to the coffee date but it has one glowing benefit, alcohol. Bars also sometimes offer activities you can do such as pool, video games or even darts. None of these matter. You don’t have to be good at them – the point is simply to get you away from staring at each other from across the table and up onto your feet and being active together. Don’t go crazy with the drinks either, there is a common two drink rule for first dates which should probably be kept – especially if your wandering hands or sex drive instantly begins going up with your alcohol intake. You only want to consume enough booze to intellectually loosen up, not…the other stuff.
A bar setting on a first date that involves an activity of some sort as well as a little booze can be fun even if your date isn’t, and isn’t dating supposed to be fun?