eHarmony Review


Seeing as I’ve been doing this for over a year, I have lots of in-depth experience with a few of the more popular dating sites.  Here are my thoughts on eHarmony:

eHarmony Review

This site is the worst of the bunch.  You get new matches everyday, but 80-90% of them are “members” that haven’t been active on the site for months or years.  When your subscription lapses they continue shopping your profile to paying members, without you even knowing it.  There is a case I read about recently, where an older woman was on the site and met a man years before – they met and eventually married.  Then a few years later the man died.  A couple more years went by and she made a new eHarmony account – guess who was one of her first matches they suggested to her?  Yup – her dead husbands profile from years before.

They use to have a feature to show last activity on profiles you were interested in and 90% always said “active over a month ago” so you didn’t waste time sending messages to dead profiles.  Fair, I guess, until they removed it and now you have no clue who’s active and who isn’t.

The way they have the subscription settings is also very scammy.  They make you think you are turning your profile off when you switch the setting to not automatically renew and charge your credit card when your subscription runs out, and if this is not turned off, you will be charged and they will not refund your money.  Supposedly you have 72 hour grace period where they will refund your money if (not if, when) this happens, but even though I called the day it happened to me, they still did not refund my money.  If you do a search, you will find hundreds of people that have been caught in this eHarmony scam.

This what you get for turning off the setting that wants to automatically renew your subscription when it runs out - scam!

This is what you get for turning off the setting that wants to automatically renew your subscription when it runs out – yes, you can still send and receive messages with it off – scam!

To properly delete your eHarmony account you have to first go into settings > account settings > billing > then click deactivate account.  This will not physically deactivate your profile if you are still subscribed, it just makes it so your credit card doesn’t get an unwanted ding for $161.00 (my case) .

If you want your profile completely erased, do the above, then delete all pictures, then using the same e-mail account that you signed up with, send an e-mail to

Its pretty obvious eharmony is circling the drain so do yourself a favor and go with another option, from my experience Match is by far the best one out there but that may vary depending on your particular age, sex and location.  Most pay sites will let you see what they are like before paying to send and receive messages, so do that first and good luck!



11 thoughts on “eHarmony Review

  1. I had the WORST experience with this site. I joined and was matched with the same 8 people over and over again. Nobody new and seemingly nobody available in my area (since I’m in NY I found that odd). So I called to cancel, said it wasn’t a good fit for me and that I was not interested in any of the same guys keep matching me with. The representative, a guy, tried to convince me to stay and offered me free months, etc. I continued to say I wasn’t interested, just wanted a refund. Wanted to know why – what was I unhappy with. I finally told him that I wasn’t attracted or interested in any of the men, and for that price (they’re on the more expensive side) it wasn’t worth it for me. The guy actually said to me, ” well maybe that’s you’re problem and why you’re still single. Obviously you’re too picky.” After ripping him and new one and telling him that I didn’t need a therapy session from a salesperson for a dating site he finally just refunded my money. But the nerve!!! They are the worst! Don’t waste your money!!

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    • Wow, brutal! I think their sales people have to try that – when I called for a refund I got some young chick that started with that BS but I was having no part of it, I had to keep repeating – give me my money back, I did not want to start a new subscription, this site is a joke over and over. Finally they put me through to billing, and I had to wait a week for an e-mail stating they would not refund me.


  2. Yeah E-Harmony sucks. Match is ok. I had much better luck with OKcupid back in the day. There are tons of people on it, because it’s free. You have the option to pay, just to get rid of advertisements, and to see if your messages are being read. So, it kind of similar to plentyoffish. I had alot more dates from Okcupid though.

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  3. I absolutely agree, eHarmony is the worst of them all, basically a scam, they only send your profile to who they want to send it to which could be no-one at all! The only people they sent me were of no interest to me, the geography settings are way too broad, I did not go on one single date – I think it should be outlawed!

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  4. This site sucks balls, which is disappointing because when I first joined I met three great women within a year. One of them I almost married. But then something happened and they did more ghosting and they stopped telling you the last time a user logged in (a telltale sign of a scam). So I quit the site. Now it’s just a shell of a joke. But there was a moment when it was decent.

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