Time to blow the dust off the keyboard, for weeks I couldn’t even get in here as I lost the password. I’ve noticed almost nobody has been blogging much, but I have the urge so lets go.
#1 – Your Ex.
This one is a no brainer for any veteran dater but during my dating tenure it was a very popular topic for the newbies. If your date brings up their ex – 99.9% of the time all it means is that they aren’t over them and it’s the biggest red flag that can be waved. Your date wants to hear and learn about you and not much else. If you feel the need to bring up your ex, you shouldn’t be out on a date in the first place.
#2 – Your Job
Obviously you are going to bring up what you do for a living, but don’t dwell on it. Shop talk is extremely boring and can suck the life out of a date within a couple of minutes. Many things can also go wrong if you don’t particularly like your job, so now the discussion has turned depressing and negative – or you can come off as a conceited douche, both are date killers.
#3 – Your Trip
“Oh it was so beautiful, and the rooms were gorgeous” – who cares. If it ain’t about you, make it about them.
#4 – Politics or Religion
I’ll give this one a 50% chance of success if you happen to be into the same political party or religious beliefs, but if not – prepare for fireworks, and no call back.
#5 – Mindless drivel
Things such as, but not limited to: weather, traffic, routes you take to work, air travel, personal drama, current affairs etc.
If you want to make a connection on a first date you aren’t going to do it by scraping the surface with worthless small talk. Ask questions about your date to open them up and see who they really are, if you relate to something then touch on it. Men on first dates are only supposed to ask questions and keep the female talking for 80% of the date, but they have to be the right ones that get below the surface.
If women find themselves on a date with a guy that only wants to talk about his job and the weather, save the date by asking him questions to take the conversation deeper and more interesting.
Deep conversation is sexy, make it happen!