Guest Post: Why Over 30 Is The Best Age For Serious Relationships

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Age is a strange thing. In your younger years you may feel so sure of what you want in a relationship and who you are, and you certainly have the energy to persue what you want and to get it. Though, as you move up through your twenties, something happens.
Nasty relationships, financial struggles and an awakening to the nature of the world may shake your confidence; you may become jaded and certain that dating is a waste of your time; or you may get so wrapped up in your professional career that you don’t take the time to foster those social skills which work to put you out there to prove your worth to the opposite sex.
Whatever the reason, dating through your twenties can be quite rocky, especially as you edge closer to your thirties while watching your friends getting picked off one by one by that special someone they have chosen to settle down with.
There is hope, and far more of it than you would think. The fact of the matter is that when you turn thirty, the dating world becomes clearer to navigate, less daunting than it ever was in your twenties, and far more rewarding than you could ever have imagined it would be.

You have a better idea of who you are

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I struggle with the notion of young love, or love at first site. I acquaint these ideals with a sense of nativity that is often associated with youth. Chemistry between two people can come about for a number of reasons, and love and attraction are not always on the list.
There is a tendency in your youth to choose dating partners based on their aesthetic qualities, seeking perfection in beauty without considering whether you have something to offer in return for this or not. The truth is, when you are in your twenties, you likely don’t yet have the financial security and personal confidence required to prove your worth, something which seems to change dramatically when you hit your thirties.
Life’s challenges will make you more attune to who you are, where you are going and what you have to offer. The confidence this brings makes it easier to put yourself out there and makes communicating with women far more natural and easier to do, making the dating game far less terrifying.

You know what you want

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By your thirties, you have likely gone through scores of breakups and dealt with flings and girlfriends who were prime examples of what you didn’t need in your life. Each of these incidences have had something to teach you.
You now know what you want in a woman beyond a buxom bosom, smooth skin and an exceptional bedside manner. You now know what a potential partner should bring to your life beyond immediate attraction.

Is she self-centered? Can she engage you in intelligent conversations? Does she compliment your personality? Questions like these can only really be answered once you have sifted through the fun-girls of your twenties and realized why they weren’t right for you.

You’ve played all the bitter games and so has she

By the time you hit your thirties, you have likely been jaded by scores of failed relationships and behavior unbecoming of a human. Silly childish games, unwarranted jealousy and infidelity can all be attributed to the folly of youth.
By the time you hit your thirties, however, you have played each variety of these relational games for dominance, meaning you can spot them from a mile away and move on without wasting your time.

Author Bio:
Mark Greene of Mens Axis is a lifestyle professional writer and digital nomad with a keen interest in men’s mental and physical health, life hacks, grooming, men’s fashion, sex, dating, career and overall day to day solutions for men. The world, according to him, is what you make of it. So go out there and make it amazing.

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8 thoughts on “Guest Post: Why Over 30 Is The Best Age For Serious Relationships

      • I’ve experienced nothing but frustration dating in my 30’s. Most women I meet have already had a couple of kids, are divorced, or have been through so many bad relationships they want to go find themselves. Plus, now I am the old guy, so the younger girls are out, the fun attractive ones have been taken, the single ones are still the ones that screwed up in their 20s and they are happy still screwing up in their 30s.

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  1. I’ve thought a bit about this one. Ultimately, there’s no one-size-fits-all answer, and surely some people are best to wait until their 30’s (or even longer). That being said, there’s reasonable evidence to suggest that marrying in your late 20’s or early 30’s (which implies pairing up in your mid 20’s to late 20’s or early 30’s) seems to have the most successful outcomes. So, there may be some risk to waiting. The other hypothesis is that those of us who hit our mid 30’s as singles are less inclined towards successful marriages (maybe prefer more partners, or, unfortunately, aren’t considered that appealing as partners in some cases). Add to it that the likelihood of having healthy children increases quite drastically as we traverse our 30’s.

    Personally, I found that as I hit my late 20’s there was a very noticeable loss of depth in the dating pool. It became tougher to find attractive single women. And as I hit my mid 30’s I had to start contemplating whether or not I was willing to be someone’s second husband, and perhaps even a stepfather. There scenarios aren’t to be taken lightly.

    I think mid 30’s is the point at which what seems like just a matter of time or a numbers game in one’s mid 20’s becomes a whole lot less certain; the process of making one’s peace with the possibility of being on one’s own for good begins around this time. The big plus—high performance car>>>>>minivan.

    OTOH, the ubiquity of online dating, whatever its drawbacks, probably does increase the dating pool a bit for the 30+ set.

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  2. >>Add to it that the likelihood of having healthy children increases quite drastically as we traverse our 30’s.

    Should say, “decreases” quite drastically.

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