I know that I said I hated free dating apps and sites, but a few days ago I bit the bullet and downloaded Bumble. I also had to make a dummy Facebook account because I tossed my original one into the trash 5 years ago.
For those that don’t know, its a swipe app and after you are matched, the woman has to reply first within 24hrs of matching, and we have to reply back within 24hrs or you lose your shot.
Observation #1 is that almost all of the girls on it are beautiful – my initial run through had me literally trying to find ones that weren’t right-swipe worthy, and it was hard. But I digress, looks alone are great in your 20’s but I desire a wee bit more than that in my 30’s and unless they tell you about themselves in the short bio, you are left to go off nothing but looks, location, age and (optional) career + education.
How about height? I am 6 foot and don’t want to swipe on anyone taller.
Religion? I love and celebrate Christmas and other Christian holidays and its an instant deal breaker if you don’t.
Body type? Self explanatory.
The other issue here is the widely discussed algorithm they have in place for men. When I first signed up and started swiping I got about 5 or 6 matches and was messaged by 3 ladies. Pretty normal I thought, until later on I realized I had swiped hundreds of profiles and the matches all but stopped – and I wanted to know why so I did some digging.
Basically, new male members are sent to the bottom of the barrel and have to work their way up to be shown to the more popular members based on how many right swipes we get over time. I assume the first batch of matches I got was a little taste of the top to convince me to not insta-delete the app out of frustration. From my research other men experienced the same thing right after signing up.
Fair enough I thought, over a week or so I should have generated enough right swipes to be “in the show” but even this was flawed. Apparently many men right swipe everyone which in-turn makes almost every right swipe for women a match which bogs down the entire system. It could be weeks or months before a girl I right-swiped on today even comes across my profile.
I’ve also scrolled though at least 15 previous dates hanging out on here so this has been like a reunion, with a left swipe adios.
I am at 4 days in and I get 1, maybe 2 matches a day and I have pretty much stopped swiping so it can catch up. Oh, I take it you have noticed the image up there – here’s another
I am now finally getting quality matches, I assume I qualified to Bumbles standards? Women I match with tend to message within the hour or not at all. I will updated later.
I didn’t like it, whenever I was messaging with a girl I could tell I was just one of many dudes she was juggling. Lots of one word answers, not asking me questions on top of the aforementioned algorithm debacle makes me have to give this app two thumbs down.