She had sent me a message on match but her profile only had one picture and it wasn’t of her – it was of an ocean. I quickly told her I need to see what she looks like – she says she took them all down due to receiving “weird messages from men”.
That was the first red flag.
She uploads a blurry head shot, then a couple more showing her very nice body, I am game. So we start chatting. She had been through a (I assume rough) divorce 2-3 years prior and told me she had taken quite a bit of time to heal and get her mojo back, which is understandable. We seem to gel pretty well, so I go for the date and she shoots me down! She says she had her tonsils pulled 3 weeks ago and she’s still healing from that!
There’s the second red flag.
Our slew of messages has now deteriorated to maybe one a day as I have no idea what this chicks deal is, but she continues to send messages – now asking things you ask in person. Personality types, what am I looking for, where do I see myself in 5 years type questions. I send a sly answer and firmly ask again for the meet and she agrees. I tell her I’ll find a nice spot at the half way point and she likes the idea.
I find a really nice, quiet cafe, booth style seating, nice ambiance – perfect for a first date, but remember what I am dealing with.
Yeah – she said that wasn’t going to work as she used to live in the area (big town with a population of 200,000) and she was fearful of running into someone she knows, and asks if I can pick another spot in the next town over.
3rd red flag, you’re outta here!
I told her this was never going to work, she had way too many rules and restrictions – among whatever the hell else was causing her to act like that.
Wanna know what she responded with?
“Nothing ventured nothing gained”
Someone needs to heed their own advice.