I usually don’t date women under the age of 30, I just tend to have more in common with the ones that have been on this planet for a similar amount of time as I. However, exceptions can be made, and I did for this “waste no time” 28-year-old that reached out to me first. She asked to meet after the second message and I was more than happy to oblige. We exchanged numbers and all I sent was “see you there at 8pm on Thursday”. She replied “see you soon”.
I met her in front of the coffee place (her idea). She didn’t really look like her (vague) pictures, but close enough, and that seems to be the norm – and I get it. She’s blonde, about 5’9″, in very nice shape, conservatively dressed, minimal – if any – makeup, she didn’t need it.
She jumped right into how she’s trying to start her own business, we get our teas and have a very nicely flowing conversation for about two hours, then she asked if I’d like to go for a walk – sure!
She’s Ukrainian born and lived most of her life in Italy but moved here in 2005 and plans to stay here forever, even though she does still bounce back and forth, getting in from Spain just two days before our date. She asked me to walk her home and then I’d jump on the nearest subway and head back to my place. Throughout the date she was dropping hints all over the place, like, “well you’ll have to show me how to do that”, “can you take me along next time?” – lots of things instigating future contact. When we arrived at hers she says “well maybe we can go skiing together, or jogging”
Skiing, WTF? (Its Spring time)
I gave her the old “ass out” hug and went on my way. She’s nice but I just wasn’t physically attracted to her, she came across like a business partner and not a love interest. However, I am done with tossing potential friends aside after these dates. I’ve mentioned before that I believe dating sites use an algorithm more or less to be friends than anything else (or worse, an algorithm designed to keep you paying and going on endless amounts of first dates, but that’s another post) – and my gut tells me she’s on the same page. I’ve learned from all this dating that 9 times out of 10 they feel the exact same way you do.