Well here’s one that I thought might just have a chance. Girl #21 was by far the cutest of them all, one of the coolest and one that I had the most fun with. Everything just felt natural and I thought it was the beginning of something special, however that wouldn’t be the case.
I had sent her a message on the dating site and we chatted back and forth every night or two. I sensed a good connection so I offered her my number and asked her to text me if she’d like to move the conversation to that.
That’s when I didn’t hear anything from her.
I figured that I must have spooked her by going for the phone after so few messages so after a week or so I deleted her messages and focused on others. Then about 2 weeks later I get a random text “Hey its D, you gave me your number awhile back and I am sorry it took so long to reply but better late than never?”
Red flag? Yes – but I figured she had probably been dating someone else and it had fallen through, she was also really hot, so I took the bait and we started chatting away.
We met the next Sunday by her place. She looked adorable as she walked up to me and we hugged, her body language was also very good the entire time. We grabbed a bite to eat almost right away and that’s when I was telling her about an amazing farmers market about an hour outside of the city and she abruptly said “lets do it next Saturday”.
Almost in shock I was like – really?
She was dead serious.
In my head I knew it had a very slim chance of happening as our date was still very much in its infancy and just too many things could go wrong.
But nothing went wrong, it only got better.
As we parted ways we made arrangements to meet up the next Saturday morning and then drive down to the market – this was right after a very flirtatious and slow stroll though a large antique shop. Her trying on vintage clothes, the two of use sitting on vintage furniture together and playfully touching each other along the way. This had been a very good first date!
After that I didn’t text her for 2 or 3 days, and when I did I simply asked if we were still on for Saturday – she responded “Hey :)… YES!!!!”
I picked her up on Saturday morning and we drove down to the market. Conversation flowed even better than I had imagined, time flew by and we had a great time. I asked her several times “Are you enjoying yourself?” and she assured me with big smiles and laughter that she was having an amazing time. Her body language was even better and more positive than before and she also gave me her business card so I could see that she was “real”. After lunch and trips through the market and several antique shops we found ourselves back on the highway headed for home.
I pulled up to her car and we loaded in the items that she had purchased.
This was when I said we’ll have to do something even more fun for date #3 and she suggested the local six-flags type park. We’d ride the roller coasters and it would be a blast, but she reminded me that she was going to see friends in Boston next weekend so it would have to be the weekend after – which was fine by me, I’d finally have a weekend off from dating!
She then stood very close to me, looking straight up into my eyes smiling, I hugged her and went for the kiss but she turned slightly and I got the top/side of her lips.
I figured it was just a screw up and drove off dreaming about our fun-park date in 2 weeks.
On Monday morning I sent her a text asking how the food and flowers were that she had bought at the market – but didn’t get a response all afternoon. I knew this was a bad sign but she was the one that made plans for a 3rd date. When I got home from work it really began setting into my gut that something was wrong and I could sense the inevitable “Dear John, Go F*ck yourself” text message – and sure as sh*t it came though about an hour later.
“I loved hanging out with you and thank you so much for taking me to the market, but I just don’t see us as a couple”
I’ve gotten those before, but this time it really hurt.
I shot back in an effort to gain important feedback “I understand, but I’d appreciate it if you could tell me what turned you off for next time”
She replied “No turn off, its just something you feel”
Me: It was very nice hanging out with you, you are a sweet heart, bye”
Her “You’re pretty awesome too”
Me – Select all messages, delete. Contacts: her name – Delete.
‘Till next time!