We met on match the last go-round back in the early fall of 2016 – it was during my last week on the site before a long wanted break. She was blonde, nicely built, act together – own house, new car, good job etc. I drove to her town which was about 40 mins west of the GTA to meet at a restaurant for tapas and drinks (you can never go wrong with tapas, gents).
She showed up looking hot in a nice dress and sun glasses – and we quickly got along.
After eating I shot for the usual “wanna go for a walk?” and off we went. We then ended up sitting on a bench talking about our teen and 20’s jobs – comparing who had done more. I won, barely – then either she or I suggested going for a drive – both not about to cut this short. I use to live in the area and know all the back-roads and hidden gems – but she directed us back to her place first. She gave me a nice tour of her extremely well decorated home before we hopped in her car and headed out for our country drive.
I knew of a cool lake-side marina / restaurant so that was our first stop and it blew her away – mainly because of its proximity to her home and she had no idea it even existed. We had a couple of drinks and were soon back on our tour.
I had high hopes but as she got more comfortable with me, she began opening up too much and too soon. Her family issues, hating her father and not caring when he died, renting a room to a college kid and the issues with that, her mother, sister, multiple work issues – the negativity started way too soon and started dripping water on the small flame that had literally just started two hours ago between us.
It was in the midst of this and our tour that we cut it short and pointed the stern back towards her place. We got there, said our farewells and I headed home.
As I drove I didn’t really know what to think – but I was for sure going to give her another shot, hoping the negative ramblings would end in the future. Prior girls had hinted at issues on first dates before – but nothing like that unloading.
We were quickly in-touch again and she said dinner was on her, back in her town – I was game. I picked her up and we went to a very nice old little house that had been converted to a restaurant. We sat at a table for two in the backyard dodging falling acorns, which was funny. It was a very nice time.
Then we ended up back at her place – and within minutes in her bed. We left dinner around 9pm and I was headed home when we were done around 2am. Holy shit was she loud – no word of a lie she woke the entire block and when I mentioned it, she didn’t even care (lol). I only left purely to avoid the morning rush – at around 6am the normal 40 min drive home would turn into 2 or 3 hours and she had to work in the morning anyway.
We set the next date at my place – for Friday night – and then we would spend the long weekend together leaving the next day on a road trip to a lake Huron beach / party town. We had fun at my place going for a nice waterfront waltz and then making poutine together.
The next day we set out on our 3-4 hour drive, stopping for food at road-side greasy spoons and grabbing snacks at bakery’s before getting there just in time to grab the last available hotel room in the entire town.
We then went to the beach where she swam and I managed to get burnt to a crisp before heading back into the town to buy booze, head back to the room, order pizza and spend time in the hot tub and pool together. At the beach I did abruptly remind her to stop talking about work bullshit and to enjoy the moment – she gave me a deer in the headlights look initially, but quickly agreed and was on-board.
We spent the rest of the night between the hot tub / pool and hanging out on the patio drinking and eating pizza outside the sliding glass door behind our room – and having intense, extremely loud sex sprinkled in-between.
That drunken night we had a bit of a spat – I said I didn’t like her negativity and she yelled at me saying it hurt her to say that – so I nipped it in the bud, hoping she would too.
I then knew this was just a fling – I loved the fun we were having but long-term this thing wasn’t happening – we were simply incompatible. Things like this are fun – but facing each other on Monday morning in the real world?? Whatever it was I had checked out.
The next morning we headed home, me thinking home too, but she insisted we just go back to her place again for the night. Being done with it, I was a little uneasy staying another night – but I went with it (my car was still at my place). We stopped for groceries and bought ingredients to make tacos.
-enter another multi hour session-
In the morning I drove back to my place, gave her a kiss, hopped out and I watched her drive away.
How do I get out of this??
Easy – she peppered me with more emotional texts asking for drives to places over an hour away during working hours “I thought I could count on you” etc. I simply told her we are incompatible – I had fun, but this is done. She sent many texts back thanking me for not leading her on, she could slow down if I wanted etc. Called and left messages..
Even a month later.
We had technically only been on 5 dates – I’d be cool with it under other circumstances – and I am leaving lots out but I am not here to bash people.
We were just not a match.